After stepping back, detaching and working on myself. I have remembered lots about my MLC/WAW that I just tolerated in the past 7-8 months, quite possibly longer. Hardly ever giving any input when discussing plans. For instance, "I don't care, whatever you want to do is fine.". She did that with date night meals, weekend activities, and so forth. It can be really trying when you have to do all the work.
And I just realized she'd all but stopped touching me, even initiating kisses. And when I touched her, even in passing, it was met with indifference. Even to the point I quit trying.
The constant testing was also a big clue that something was going on. Instead of asking if I wanted to go on a camping trip, she'd state that I should go on a camping trip with one of our friends who was going solo on a backwoods national park hike. If I answered no, it meant I didn't want to go on one at all. This was just one of several "tests".
Lots of other things too. But what puzzles me most of all, in emails and text messages from early May (BD July 2nd-3rd) there is talk of the future, bathroom remodel, dinner parties, etc...
A friend has been meeting with me 4 times a week to walk/ride bikes -- 5 mile walks, 10-15 mile rides -- and he said she might be doing me a big favor. Haha! He understands that there are 2 sides to every story, we've spoken at length about my part in all this, but he also knows that running away and being selfish isn't very adult like. We've known this friend for 8-9 years, he knows us, has been around us a lot over the years. He's amazed at the predicament, and cannot believe it all came from my seemingly sweet wife.
Me - Mid 40's W - Mid 40's Married 20 No kids BD - 7/2015 ILYB... Moved out 2 days later Suspect EA
