If your wife is turning up unannounced too often and it is frustrating you, have you considered setting a boundary that asks her to call before dropping by?
She's found somewhere in her mind that makes her happy for now and you are definitely in the "friends zone" so doesn't she have you under control? Maybe I am being overly simplistic as I've only been around your sitch for a short time.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
