[BrightFuture]

FY, what do you mean by this? Do you mean to see what he does about it himself?

This is the perfect opportunity to get a better glimpse of where your H is right now.

DON"T change a thing or contact him regarding it. Let him come to you and see what he says.

BTW, I also agree w/ForeverYoung...don't change a thing and do not contact him regarding the condo. Leave it be. If he gets in a pinch, he'll contact you about it.

FY, Job, thanks for this. I didn’t say anything to him so far.

^^^My opinion only... batteries not included, action figures sold separately.

Hahaha, I would not mind the batteries coming with this… It would mean that I could hear these words over and over again, LOL.

Job, I found out about the friends who would not let him use their house. It is not about him. They started doing this with everyone asking for accommodations. I know H offered to pay for the utilities, but it is not about that. They just don’t want to let anyone to stay there, period. Whatever reason they have for that. Who knows…

As for the condo redecoration, I think he wants to do it so he could start brining women (his dates) there. Right now it has my signature there too, even though we decorated it together.

A couple of not so pleasant updates. According to the CC chargers, H drove to that state again, where this woman (potential ow) lives. He is either very desperate to get this woman or hates the place he works at right now (which is actually very likely). The drive is about 7 hours one way.

I got into a heated discussion with my sister and her H on Saturday. They were telling me again what I need to do and how to live my life. The discussion started with me mentioning that I don’t know what to do with the storage shed I have in the backyard. The bottom part of it is rotting and falling apart. H built that shed himself. So, now I have to deal with it. My sister started telling me that I need to get rid of it, then that I need to clean my garage, because I start looking like my Mom with all that sh!t accumulating, and that H is not going to come back EVER to fix the things. And that I need to stop feeling sorry for myself and finally divorce him, and I need to do blah, blah, blah… I just shared my concerns about the storage shed, I don’t think I was even sounding like a victim. But… maybe I did. In any case, I really didn’t appreciate this attack on me again, so I told them that I didn’t want to hear this anymore, got up and walked out.

So, maybe now I’m not even going to be invited for dinners anymore. I’ve lost another one of my support group. So, this site is the only thing left for me to vent and share.

On the positive side, I did 4 mile run on Sunday. With my BIL, H’s brother (who actually didn’t run, but joined us over there), and a couple of his friends (one them is also my friends on FB.) The only sad thing about this was that I learnt that my BIL split with his GF (the one that H didn’t like and said that she would not last long), who lived with him. She was moving out this past weekend. The reason my BIL gave me - that he just was not happy anymore… Sounds familiar..? They were together for almost 2 years.