I've been reading up on it. There's so much to take in.
He brought our daughter back today. We were suppose to have lunch and talk. Well he told me he had company coming over and he couldn't stay long. When he got into the house, he acted so nervous. Like he didn't want to be around me or couldn't. He talked to me about the girl he was seeing. He said it was over with them and how much he really liked her. He did decide to go ahead and go have lunch but he was in a rush the entire time. He talked about over and over how we should be friends. We would get along better as friends and how he wants his divorce. He wants to hurry and get it over with. That's all I heard basically the entire time. He did say he stopped having feelings for me and loving me the day he left. But then said i meant something to him and always will and he will always be there for me.
He said he was sad it was ending but then changed it to he wasn't sad because he hasn't even thought about it since he left. He asked for a hug a little before he left then told me before he drove away that he only hugged me to be nice.
Hi Haunted, I’m so sorry that things are turning this way for you, with your H bringing up the D subject. I agree with Job, they do it thinking that it will change things and make them happy. Obviously your H still has feelings for you. This is why his head is all over the place. Seems so much similar to my H telling me at BD that he wanted to start a new phase of his life, but didn’t want to completely lose me, so he was hoping that we would be best friends. Three years later it doesn’t quite work like this. About 8 months after BD he brought up the D subject, and asked me if we could fill out the papers online together. I told him that he could go ahead and do this himself, send them to me and would forward them to my lawyer. Three years later there are still no papers and no filing.
Hang in there. Let you H do the work. If he wants to file, don’t help him.
As about him stopping having feelings for you after he left, and him giving you a hug because he just wanted to be nice… This is such a bs! What he is doing is trying to convince himself that he has no feelings for you and what he is doing is the right thing. This is so MLC, he is following the script.
Like job said, there is always hope. Concentrate on yourself, your D and the school. ((((hugs)))))
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
Hi Haunted, I’m so sorry that things are turning this way for you, with your H bringing up the D subject. I agree with Job, they do it thinking that it will change things and make them happy. Obviously your H still has feelings for you. This is why his head is all over the place. Seems so much similar to my H telling me at BD that he wanted to start a new phase of his life, but didn’t want to completely lose me, so he was hoping that we would be best friends. Three years later it doesn’t quite work like this. About 8 months after BD he brought up the D subject, and asked me if we could fill out the papers online together. I told him that he could go ahead and do this himself, send them to me and would forward them to my lawyer. Three years later there are still no papers and no filing.
Hang in there. Let you H do the work. If he wants to file, don’t help him.
As about him stopping having feelings for you after he left, and him giving you a hug because he just wanted to be nice… This is such a bs! What he is doing is trying to convince himself that he has no feelings for you and what he is doing is the right thing. This is so MLC, he is following the script.
Like job said, there is always hope. Concentrate on yourself, your D and the school. ((((hugs)))))
It's okay. Yeah, I know he still has feelings. He won't look at me. Just the way he acts tells me there is still something there.
One said, I have always thought you were beautiful and you still are beautiful to me. I can think that even though we are not together.
The next one came about 2 hours later saying I just want to be friends with you. I don't want to be intimate. I don't want that anymore. We're not together anymore.
Wow, he is total MLC script. You see how mixed up he sounds, I would not want to be in that state of mind. You did GREAT by not responding to his texts. Stay strong.
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
Wow, he is total MLC script. You see how mixed up he sounds, I would not want to be in that state of mind. You did GREAT by not responding to his texts. Stay strong.
