Need advice for a WW who left Part 3

[dwh15]

Thanks guys. Bond and mahhhty jumped in late, but if you look above, Cali already set me straight and I replied that I agreed. It's actually closer to 5 months since WW left, based on DDay 1, but she didn't "technically" move out until DDay 2. Still, she hasn't really lived her since early March. But in the big scheme of things, you're right. It's not a lot of time compared to the 24 years we were together. I have been keeping busy with GAL activities and having a lot of fun doing so. Making plenty of new friends, and reconnecting with old ones. Attending my first ever 4-man golf scramble this Saturday.

It's just hard sometimes. It doesn't sound like a lot of time, but that 5 months feels like an eternity. Of course, every day I seem to change my mind but I'm trying to commit to a year separated before I file. Then, it's another 6 months before final in this state. By 18 months out, I really hope that I'm well on my way to living a mostly happy life, free of daily thoughts about WW. Well, that is assuming nothing changes between now and then, but I honestly don't see her coming out of her A fog before around 2 years out, and I'm not waiting that long, simply out of financial concerns. We just crossed 18 years of M, and if I hit 20 years, which would be May 2017, then the court will potentially consider permanent spousal support. So that is my cutoff - I will be divorced or on the road to reconciling by late 2016. Doesn't mean that I can't continue after D, but I don't see myself wanting to keep any hope alive for that long. Doesn't mean I wouldn't still consider being with WW again if I were single, but I don't plan on letting the current sitch go past 2 years.