I'm starting to think about casually dating, but not decided yet. I don't want anything serious and no plans to be unfaithful, but I think it would be a nice distraction. And I honestly think it would help me detach even further from my W. I want to know that there are other women out there who find me attractive and interesting. And if I start to develop any feelings, then it would be a motivator for me to go ahead and file for D.
I'm with Mr Bond. This is silly. You were with her for 20+ years and it has been 4 months and you want a distraction. Educate yourself on statistics... Statistics show that in the U.S., 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. Contributing factors....People don't develop the necessary relationship skills to navigate any relationship and they move on early looking for comfort and or distractions.
Get a hobby. Contribute to your local area. Coach. Mountain Bike. Enter a poker tournament. GAL. Anything. But there is no such thing as casual dating for a person who has been married with kids and is 4 months out after spouse left.
You aren't even D'ed yet. Before you do anything that could possibly affect her ask yourself these questions... 1 - How does this affect my kids? 2 - How does help me reach my goals?
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
