I could really use some advice and this seems to be the perfect place! First some background. I have known my wife for about 25 years. We met when I was 10. She was my next door neighbor but lived in a different town. We grew up together. We had our first ‘real’ relationship starting my senior year. She was obsessed with me at that point and I was a bad boyfriend. She taught me my lesson though 3 years later when she dumped me while in college. Now the shoe was the on the other foot. We were on and off for the next few years, always at her call. Ironically, we got back together before she ended up having major abdominal surgery. She was in the hospital for 2 weeks. I took that as a sign that we were meant to be together. But after she recovered, she decided she had enough of me again. Over the next 5 years or so, she had a few real relationships. I did not get involved in anything serious. In fact, she has been my only serious relationship. I basically stopped talking to her so I could move on with my life. Then 6 years ago she called me and now I am here. We have been officially back together for 6 years, lived together for 4 and married for 2. I am 34 she is 33 and we have no children. I thought our marriage is pretty good. We have similar interests, did everything together, no arguing and have all the same friends. About 2 months ago, I come back to bed to give my wife a kiss after brushing my teeth. She didn’t kiss me and just shook her head. I knew right away what that meant. She said “we have become roommates” and there is “no chemistry”. I agreed that things could be improved but thought we should work on it. Told her I would do anything. She said there was nothing to work on, it should be ‘natural’. She said I was the ‘best husband’ (obviously not) but that she is not happy. A few days later she told me she found an apartment and about a month ago she moved out. I suspect she is either having an affair or at the very least, having a good time. Some of the outfits she was wearing right before she left drove me crazy. That is not the girl I know. The past month has been hard. I try hard not to contact her. She has not contacted me once on her own during that time. I am keeping strong though by hitting the gym hard and focusing on finishing my MBA. Am I on the right track here by ignoring her? Of course I desperately want her back. I do not want to file for divorce and want her to bring it up so that it is 100% her decision. She has put through this before but we were not married. It is hard and I knew this was going to happen when we got back together. Ugh.
