Just be careful with the hate. Part of the DB process is being able to control your emotions regardless of what they are. This means not only controlling the desperate clingy person when we only want W but also the angry person who wants nothing to do with them.
It can be just as hard to control the one who lashes out as the one who begs, so be careful. Feelings change over time so try not to react or make decisions based on them.
Nothing you can say to W will show her what she is doing to her family, if you attempt to it will only drive her further along. Coming from you, anything you do say will just look like a con to trick her back into the M, which wont work. She has to see the consequences of her actions with her own eyes, which can take a very long time.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
