Losers: Wayward Wife & LRT (9)

[dwh15]

It amazes me how someone could have so much regret for how the situation turned out, but not an ounce of wherewithal to do the work to fix the situation that they created. WW holds the key to coming back from the R brink, but all she can do is look back and say "tsk tsk...". I am so sorry, Def.

Keep working on you, as I know you are. I still think you are one savvy DBer.

RAI

Yes, I don't get it either. My WW admitted to me at one point she had spent 4 hours the night before crying. I asked her what in the world she was crying about? She had gotten everything she wanted. Best she could come up with was she felt bad about the kids. I don't think she even knows, but yeah, funny how a wayward is willing to inflict all this pain on their family, and themselves, yet stand by their decision to walk away. But like everyone says, you can't try and wrap logic around emotion, and it's pure emotion driving these train wrecks.

I feel bad for mine, because I know she's not rational yet making choices that impact the rest of her life, and everyone in it. There's no doubt she's going to have major regrets at some point down the road. Maybe not for leaving, but for the pain she inflicted on a man she spent 24 years with, on her own 4 kids, and on the dozens of related family and friends. She has to carry that with her the rest of her life. The LBS on this board are paying the price now, but we are going to get healthy again, and have happy lives. I don't see any happy endings for a WS, at least not in the long run. There may be pockets of artificial, temporary happiness but they are all illusions that fade quickly. Not sure what else we do though, other than save ourselves and our children as best we can.