It does no good to worry, I know. And you said what I thought you would say. And I agree. I'm going to go foward as business as usual with no R talks.
I think that's the right call. Not sure what choice you have unless you are prepared to change jobs for the sake of remaining local. This may not be a bad thing in the long run. It's going to be equivalent to "going dark" during most of the week. When you come home on weekends, focus on the kids. I think it will allow you to detach easier over time, and will give your W a taste of what life is going to be like w/o you around.
Yes, it's going to be hard thinking about what she "might" be doing while you are gone. It doesn't really matter whether you are around or not though. My WW had 3 affairs right under my nose while living with me. She simply became an expert liar. Your W is going to do what she wants to do, regardless of your presence. It's hard, but you have to try and let it go. With any luck, she will start to miss you and possibly start moving towards working on the M, rather than away from it.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
