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Thanks Sandi and Cali, great but tough advice. Its such a major role change to go from doing everything for your family including your wife and kids to figuring out what to do whether it is for me and my kids or if it is for my wife in some way. Very strange but I think I am starting to understand. Basically the kids first, then me. I will be nice and polite to my wife but never again let her browbeat me. If she wants me to do something mainly for her I will say that is what your husband used to do, the one you fired.

I have to maintain and grow my self respect. If and when she respects me again I may be attractive to her but certainly not when she doesn't respect me.