I'm sorry your feeling a down about things, perfectly understandable though.
I wouldn't let feeling down make you want to push forward on the legal side straightaway though. To my mind it's better if that comes from feeling positive about independent life....
So couple of things I want to pull you up on, meant with only positive intent.
Why on earth would your W not be able to give up her current life? it doesn't sound particularly great to me.
You said nothings changing except the anti-Ds are working and EXW is getting better with the kids. That sounds like a pretty significant something and the kids are a key part of your bond.
Also for nothing to be changing then that means you arent either which 1) isn't true and 2) gives you options to change you for the even better (personally I love Team GB's slogan 'Better Never Stops').
Anyway, I hope you are feeling better today.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
