Hi lovely RD, sorry you've been feeling rough. It's understandable and I do think your sitch is a challenge. I feel up and down and I haven't actually seen my H for a year!! I can't imagine how hard it must be still having your W as part of your lives, in your house and so on. The best advice I can give, is that you make decisions in your own best interests and in the interests of the kids.

If you want to propose selling the house, propose that. If you want to remove W from the business books, propose that too. She has chosen a separate life path just now, and like so many of us, you just need to make your own plans. Of course, you can do that and stand for your M and a possible reconciliation if you choose - but I think 'practical arrangements' shouldn't be put on hold. JMHO, and feel free to ignore!

RD, do I recall that you need to be S in Ireland for 5 years before filing for D?? If that is the case, you guys are going to remain M for a while - even if you do live separate lives and sort out finances. I have to say in your W's case, I'm surprised she hasn't come back seeking more in the way of funds etc. It may help you both to sell your current property perhaps?

Finally, I think there is an answer to feeling the doldrums and that is RD to have some adult GAL and extend himself a bit further.....but that's JMHO - and I'm only mentioning it because I haven't for a little while...

Take care xxx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus