I hear you Cali. Its so damn tough right now. I miss her so much and my family. Part of me wants to tread lightly in the hopes of this getting fixed, another part says it wont get fixed and to look out for myself. Lawyers have me confused, I don't know which one to go with. My wife is being downright cold and mean which is a total 180 from the last 16 years of love and caring. I hate this. I was a good guy, a good dad and husband. She can take me for a large chunk of my income as well where I live and I could barely see my kids if this goes against me.
Oh I totally get where you are and its not a good place. Being a 'good guy' is usually something we all strive for, bad side of this .. when you are good to the extent you are more driven to please others ahead of yourself, those closet to you end up losing respect for you ... call it the "Princess Effect" ... I did everything for my W, thinking.... ok if I do this she will love me, if I power wash the patio, she will reward me with love, If I do that .. she will love me. I did things to get a reaction from my W, this over time lead to me pursuing, doing things without rewards, becoming frustrated and in time losing myself, losing my sense of self worth, self respect ... and when you lost self respect, its impossible for your W to respect you ... hard for a woman to be attracted to a man she no longer respects. Putting her up on the pedestal and worshiping her as the princess, over time she felt/believed she deserved better, even better than all the things I was doing FOR her ... not for me or my family.
Her being cold and mean ... yup .. mine was the same, its her wall to ensure this all happens, to make sure you can not 'trick' her back into the marriage. Stay the course ... again .. her feelings and actions are hers, nothing you can do but turn that energy towards yourself.
