BT, I am so sorry your sitch has really degraded recently. I can't believe that he's been recording you all week. Of course, anything that is on the tapes cannot be used even for divorce filings as it was done without your permission.
It's amazing how much a person can change and how quickly it can happen as well.
You are doing amazing with yourself. Just remind yourself that this too will pass.
*hugs* E
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out