I think I belong in Piecing...

[Painter]

That's a great idea - personal compliments might be easy to start with.

I have been remiss in saying nice stuff lately, and that may have contributed to us backsliding pretty severely.

H was so verbally abusive the other night that I felt I'd had enough. He has also become angry every time lately when I tried to find a time to schedule MC. (Open question: When would it be convenient for you to go to MC? Response: Angry rant about how he has no time, too busy, many important things to do.) I have now told him he can schedule if he wants to.

I've pulled back emotionally and am focusing on becoming financially independent. I'm sure it's going to take time so I won't be making any big decisions or declarations until I feel I'm secure in my choices.