As Wonka said ... now you have her atleast leaning back into the M, this is the hard part .... yes you heard me... DBing is one thing .. piecing it back together, whole new ball game and one I am still trying to sort out.
Do yourself a favor ... research and land a pro M MC .... do not try to wing this and DYI. There are still issues there and when this newness of recommitting to the M wears off you will need something to fall back on.
Do not forget all the work you have done, keep up with that it landed you 'here' right?
Recovering from an A is a slow and painful process. You will not be able to resolve it in one fell swoop based on one conversation. I'd suggest that you read up on Cali's thread for they've addressed Mrs. Cali's XOM in pieces over the past several weeks (or few months) now they're in piecing stage.
The first order of business is finding a solution based MC therapist.
WONKA, soory to hijack - but you can take a look see at Lost08's thread. He H is giving her the touchy feely mixed messages that Smothy's was and your early intervention may be useful. Thanks, Py
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015