Just an update. I have decided to proceed with D. My H is acting like I never would have expected. My packing up his things has turned him into a monster. It has gotten to the point of no return and there is no way I can be M to this person. I am not a mental health worker, but I 100% believe that my H is a narcissist. This is one of the worst types you can go through D with. It is clear he is going to try an bully his way through this process. I found out last night he has been recording our talks all week. I can no longer talk to him and will have to deal purely through L. I will be filing today if my H has not already done so.
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015