I know what you mean about being afraid that you haven't left any stone unturned. But from everything I've read in your sitch, you've tried your best and done everything possible. Filing is the last straw and you never know what will come of it.

She can't say she is surprised. What does she expect?

M: 59 W: 53
M: 9 yrs
T: 14 yrs
No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine)
W moved out 11/18/2013
D-Day 12/14/2013
W moved back home 12/1/2014