I fixed the car because I had to. It was the right thing to do regardless of the w. Again I understand the point but things are not always so cut and dry. My family is In a crisis and I'm going to do what I need to do as the man of this family.
I know my wife has fired me but that does not relieve me of my duties. I have to support my kids and make sure that they have what they need. This is something I will not apologize for. Yes my w has fired me but I will not let my children go without what they need because of her decision.
I appreciate this site and I love it. It has brought me through some hard times. My kids come before anything. It is my duty as a father to make sure that they are ok.
This has absolutely nothing to do with the w.
I'm sorry if I offended. In general, I agree that fixing the car was the right move. I certainly understand that line between "doing my wife a favor" and "ensuring my kids are ok" is often extremely blurry and I struggle with it as well.
The original point was about choices and the factors we use to make them. Without reading back through your whole situation, I picked something on the tip of my memory. Maybe the one duke mentioned was a better example as the children's well-being is certainly not impacted by the presence of a trampoline. Ultimately, it comes down to choices, and the factors we consider when making them.
"Doing the right thing" is not necessarily the right attitude if your goal is "I want to save my marriage." So I'd caution the use of that as a barometer in the future.
