My story

[drpqb29]

So, this weekend H had the girls. I was busy GAL and went to dinner with his brother and SIL.

On Saturday morning around lunch time, I texted him to see how the girls were doing. He said they were good, and then made a comment about my night out. He said he was going to the park with the girls and asked if I wanted to join them. I met up with them and spent an hour with them/talking to H about general things.

Around dinner time, I decided to grill because I haven't all summer. I asked H if he had dinner already, and he did. I made a dessert as well. The pork is really awesome from a local organic farm. I texted him about missing out on the pork chops. He asked if I would bring one over for him. I ended up bringing him one, and the dessert, as well, for the girls to have some. I stayed over until the girls went to bed, then I went home.

On Sunday, I picked up the girls to bring them to church. When I was there, I asked if I could do anything to help his day. He proceeded to question heavily about where this question is coming from and why I am asking that question. I said it was coming from my heart, my desire to help his day go a little better if I can. That is all I said, and then tried to plaster my smile back on my face, and when girls were ready, we left for church.

I know asking the question about helping his day and the food things above is probably considered pursuing, but I am kinda doing a 40 day love thing on my H that is biblical in nature along with DR. So, I am not sure if I should be doing both or not. I am doing the 40 day thing because I wasn't showing him the love he deserved. So, this is helping me to change that. Am I doing to much?????

Anyway, I thought I blew it with the question this morning. I also said, that I didn't realize me asking that question made him so angry. At about 1:30 today, he called to see if I took the girls shopping for the rest of their school supplies. He then asked if I wanted to get dinner with him at about 3pm. I said yes. So, the family ate together, and the little daughter wanted to go play putt putt as a family. So, we ended up playing putt putt and eating ice cream. I dropped them off at H apartment around 5pm.

Is this working? Am I doing the right thing? I am trying not to put pressure on him about our relationship, but I am afraid I am going to end up just in friend zone. I don't want to be friend zone, I want to stay wife. It is the little things he does that I am reading into that make me nervous. He will joke about finding me a BF.

When I had my DB sessions with a counselor, I remember saying when he will spends time with me during my time with the girls, then I know I am on the right track. That has happened twice now. He has accepted invitations from me to hang out with me and the girls.

Do I continue to accept these invitations? Why am I so nervous? I am trying to keep expectations down.