Letting go, really hurts (Smothy 9)

[Pyrite]

hey Smoth,

I don't see it as contradictory advice. Be light and breezy, be friends. You;re underlying attitude should not be dominated by "what outcome am i going to get if I do A or B?" Your H IS not going to change his mind based on a reply to a text or a cleverly worded email that YOU have concocted. He is going to change HIS mind, by himself. Granted, you are a "feature" in his existence that might contribute t o this, but it will be your L&B demeanour which accomplishes this. And your demeanour is not genuinely L&B (as in for your own sake), it is forced to solicit a particular response.

Give up on soliciting a response per text. Live your life. Live it well. If he changes his mind you are NOT going to miss it, corollary you are NOT going to see it while you are so hooked on it.

OK DR says "watch", but I dont think that applies to us , or you, and certainly not on an hourly/daily basis.

This M, you, are on your deathbed. Go to the light Smothy. On the outside your resistance is seen in the living world as coughing and spluttering and an ugly death. Go to the light. Who knows, maybe it is true, maybe people have returned from that place, reborn, reinvigorated. IF not you get to stay there. Easier said than done, but lets aim for something like this.