Hi Zelda don't know you story well but here is my 2cents.
There is no prize you win by getting through this without the aid of medicine. I was on a heavy doze of prozac and along with therapy and Alanon I have come out of my divorce a new and stronger person.
We hear on the boards understand how raw you feel. I totally get it. If your IC doesn't get it maybe consider a new one. The best counselors I have heard of allow us each to get through it at our own pace.
Seriously consider medication - Im off it now but it really saved me. I would never want anyone to go through the misery I experienced without all the help available.
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