My lovely she is rationalising as well as justifying her actions and blaming you. Usually what she says is also a projection, "lashing out" and is likely to be the reverse, in other words it's what she thinks she is likely to do.
Hoovering is the action an abuser like my WH does in order to persuade me back into R for his benefit, not mine. To take me through another cycle of abuse.
I don't think WW is inviting you to piece, she has no remorse. She is coming on strong with you though. This concerns me as it sounds like she is setting the scene for blame.
So red flags for me :
No remorse by WW Negative comments about you, lashing out Blaming you for pregnancy blaming you for everything Blaming you......
There was another poster her called Mustardseed who was in a similar sitch with her WH. I don't know why but this has the same 'feel'. I can't quite put my finger on it.
I will find the links for you Z and I put a thread together on abuse as a starter and it has some definitions etc on page 8 and 9.
