I am sorry to hear D12 had a melt down. It does take a village to raise a kid and right now you are doing it all alone plus with a full time job. Give yourself some credit for how hard that is. Also don't forget to take steps to get her more support for where she is right now in upstate New York - even if it is only temporary.
I know how freaking overwhelming it is being a single mom so don't beat yourself up over anything. You are doing the best you can with what you have. It will only get better.
Thinking of you
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13