Tkd - Nobody is saying you shouldn't have fixed the car. The point isn't about the decision you made. It's about the mindset. And trying to explain how your actions are received by your W.
You said "she couldn't" fix the car. All I'm saying is that she could have - of course not by herself, but she could have gotten it fixed. Whether that's prudent due to timing, finances, whatever, I'm not judging.
