I made the choice to fix the car because I knew she couldn't and the kids need transportation to school. At that point it didnt matter whether she was happy or not. It seemed like the logical thing to do. Right?
See, this is when I feel that a lot of newcomers use their kids as their excuse to do something for the W, hoping to score a few points. Yes, what you said sounds logical, but you also said you turned around and told her you were not going to be her mechanic. So, which is it? Are you fixing it for the kids today but not in the future? See what I mean here?
I'm not picking on you or trying to give you a hard time about the car. It is only an example. I am trying to get you to be honest with yourself. We've heard men use their kids as their excuse or crutch for almost every thing on this board. Maybe they are blind to the truth behind their actions, IDK. What seems pretty obvious to outsiders is how the LBH wants to do something for his WW, hoping he can get on her good side, or that she'll at least appreciate him. He's like the little boy taking an apple to his teacher. Her smile and a thank you is worth it all for him.
For your own sake, I hope you will ask yourself what your motivation really is.....before you act on it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
