have i been making mistakes too long part 4

[2Times2Many]

I read the following somewhere years ago (about the stock market, of all things): If the game is rigged, why do you want to play?

I agree with Azzork. When it comes to making choices on how to interact with your WAS or things you should or should not do, you have to make the choice based on what is best for you (and/or your children). Not what you think will make your WAS happy.

I believe a WAS is going to interpret your words and actions in a way that justifies what he/she is doing regardless of your good intentions. It's one of the ways they use to make themselves feel better about the pain and hurt they are inflicting. They have to make you the "bad guy."

When they succeed in making you feel like you can't win ... that you're the bad guy ... that attitude comes across to them through your words, actions and moods and it feeds their justifications.

You have to base your choices on what is best for YOU! Don't play the game.