Nice introspection. I think you can own those things without owning the cause for downfall. Takes 2 to wish for marriage and only one for D.

I did divorce recovery workshop. It was good and the IRL support was helpful. I hope you enjoy it.

Mid 30's
Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH
D 9/15; NC forever on

You can't DR your way out of abuse.