Arrival to NC.

[Clairee]

Sotto is probably dead on. I know my H said he looked for anything to justify what he did to smother his feelings of guilt. He had one divorcing friend who he could basically trash me to that would validate his behavior. Sounds like it could be the same type of situation. Mom won't condemn her actions & pacifies/validates her justification. This helps her push her guilt down. You've done really great throughout your sitch, this doesn't define who you were or are. Somewhere inside your W is the girl you loved, right now that girl is being possessed by a monster of her own making. She's not rotten, just lost in fantasyland. Keep moving forward, there is so much more out there just waiting for you.