Very sorry to hear about what you are going through. In a way, its good you found out and confronted her. Now you know and its out in the open. You can also prepare better legally as you know your wife has been talking to lawyers. I know this all hurts but you are actually better off knowing than not knowing. My heart goes out to you and I feel your pain. Hang in there. I have been reading lots on this site and it keeps coming up that the EA and PA's don't last. Fight through it and focus on your kids and you. Your kids and you.
M: 48 W: 45 Married: 16 years D1-14, D2-11, D3-9 BD: May 29 She moved out 2 weeks later with kids Awaiting mediation