Thank you so much Job for all your advice. Now it makes complete sense why he made such a production of showing the number on his phone. And when you read this, you will see you were right!
H definitely thinks I have something going on. Last night I stepped out to run a few errands. H said what time he was going to be home but I was not not back at that time. H had texted me but I left my phone at home. So kids answered that I was out and said where I went. When I returned he semi-jokingly asked where I was even though he had already found out from kids. We bantered a bit but I could tell that he really did want to know where I went. He was testing my honesty as afterwards he said he was close to the place kids said I was. He said he even looked there for me! (This would be the most unglamorous A EVER as I was in running shorts with my hair in a sloppy pony tail; plus I was gone for about an hour and 15 minutes!) Interesting that he is now worried about my whereabouts.
Today in a roundabout way H mentioned that he is very straight laced and has never crossed any lines. He was quite firm in saying this. He said I may not believe him but he affirmed again it is true.
I have no issue with showing him my phone. The only thing I am hiding is the info. on this forum. I do get nervous that I forgot to clear the history or that I left a post open. I will show my phone too.
Now that I hear your advice, Job, it makes so much sense to thank him for showing phone and for compliments. I need to see the good and praise it.
When I see progress it reminds me of how things used to be. I need to stop going there and instead focus on the good.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
