Steady on the beer though. Remember, those STFU smoothies only work when you're sober, otherwise, you'll end up in a scrape or saying something you'll regret, especially when you're emotional.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Had a good day. Played golf and had a night out with the kids. The W is at someones wedding. Pretty ironic. I'm feeling emotional and trying hard to shake it.
The kids got into a fight at the batting cages. They aren't themselves these days. They never used to act out. My parents are driving me nuts. They want me to see a lawyer. I'm not ready for that. Why is it after a great day I can still feel awful when I get home.
I booked a bunch of piano jobs and now I'm worried I can't pull them off. If there is one thing I'm good at, it's entertaining people. I've done it all my life and now I'm not sure that I can do it. I will find the strength somehow.
M:39 W:40 S:10 S:7 D:12 BD:3/5/15 Separate BR:3/5/15 W moved out with kids 1/3/16
W just got home. Walked right past me without a word. I'm going to watch a movie and go to bed. This [censored].
That hurts man. I really don't know how you guys living in the same house as W pull it off. I just had a pretty great day overall, and when I get home, nothing waiting for me but 4 grateful boys. I'm still having rough days but overall the GAL stuff is doing wonders for my mood. I feel myself detaching a little more every day, and am reaching a point where I'm almost sorry for my WW. I know she's making terrible decisions, and have no doubt that one day she's honestly going to regret where she's at in her life. She may not regret that she left me, but she'll be sorry about how she did it, and very sorry about the impact it has had on her kids and her own R with them. I won't even touch on the financial piece but that isn't going to be easy either. I keep chugging along, knowing that I'm going through the pain now, but her own pain is coming somewhere down the road.
I feel your ya TKD. This stuff is hard. You want it to be over, yet every day is another reminder about what you have lost. There's no way out except right through the middle of the storm. Bear the pain, try to learn and grow from it, and believe that one day, it WILL get easier.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
Your sitch sounds a lot like mine. Have a read. One thing I learned (way too late mind you) is you cannot win no matter what you do. If you do fix your wifes car you are pandering her or sucking up; if you don't fix your wifes car you are a bad guy for not fixing your wifes car. My sitch - I had plans to drive my family to the airport for a one month Euro vacation (that I am paying for). Wife said the day before when I called to confirm what time to pick them up that her mom was driving everyone and that I didn't need to go. I insisted that I would drive myself to the airport to see them off. Of course if I didn't do that I would be a bad guy for not taking the time to see them off. I probably am a bad guy for not driving them as well. See? You CANNOT win. That should be Sandi2's rule # 38
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M: 48 W: 45 Married: 16 years D1-14, D2-11, D3-9 BD: May 29 She moved out 2 weeks later with kids Awaiting mediation
You are so right. I'm trying to stay away and give her space. She limes the space but says I'm not spending enough time with the kids. I can't win. I can't stop thinking about it. I'm lost and lonely and wish so bad that this was a bad dream.
M:39 W:40 S:10 S:7 D:12 BD:3/5/15 Separate BR:3/5/15 W moved out with kids 1/3/16
