I saw that I could do more and I wanted to do more not just to help out my wife more but to have a better, closer family life. I rarely if ever asked her to do anything. Is this 30 days with no contact at all not going to do anything? may even push her away more?
If you don't like a couch, do you think being away from it will change your opinion after 30 days? What if you paint the room, change out the cushions and add an end table...maybe you can come back and see the couch differently.
My point is that just a month of NC isn't going to do anything unless you have made some changes during that time.
