Hi Jim. I always appreciate the time you take over my sitch and your questions would always make me think
Jim I'm going to go into a. Little detail so I hope you sitting comfortably !!
when Sunny asked the question if I would reconcile I had no hesitation in saying yes to my original W but hesitate when faced with EXW
Jim , at the moment it's academic but if EXW wanted to reconcile it would be a matter of trust on my part because I'm not sure about OM. Some months back yourself and Sotto pointed out my obsession with OM. Since then I have relaxed way back from it and now it's a mild irritation
At BD I'm sure OM was not in the picture and when he came to light I do think it was a friendship of some sort. As you know OM has mental issues and is an alchoholc. EXW has told me she is helping him and he is an escape because he doesn't judge her. EXW also has physical problems ( at the moment ) that may preclude an intimate realtionship EXW has told her sister , the L/C and our kids that she is not in a relationship with anyone However EXW does spend a lot of time with OM and he does stay in her flat and in her bed
I do think EXW is going through something but I don't think she would act this way unless she is sure our M is over
EXW has been gone over 10 months yet all her post is still delivered to the family home , she has very little money , she left her four kids , who she adored and is not really active in their lives to a tenth of the degree she was. She doesn't ask for money and has only stopped texting me about how sad she is and how homesick she is since I asked her to. She has been diagnosed with depression and is now on anti Ds. Since thie diagnosis the kids have noticed a huge change in her and say she is returning to the old mummy
Jim in my heart I think EXW wants to return to her old life as I have worked on me and I am becoming a man that only a fool would leave
I'm of the opinion that EXW didn't really leave me but left her old life and didn't really consider her life going forward She does seem lost and maybe she will never find her way.
EXW has come forward on a few occasions and I have closed the door I think my insecurities lead me to jump before im pushed even if no one is really pushing
EXW was here today talking about our past and talking about her visit to L/C. She also mentioned her anti Ds and thinks they are helping
Jim If I look at my sitch I think EXW is regretfully of her actions but she is not prepared to change anything at the moment I'm lucky in that I get no spew and EXW seeks my company when she's in the home She always asks about my health and well being and treats me with respect I have my kids 24/7 and I remain in my home with my pets and possessions I have DBed like a pro. I don't mention R or M even when EXW does and I don't persue I do show concern but only in a friendly way EXW has come forward and has told D14 that she wants to come home I'm not sure EXW knows I would reconcile and i have not given any indication that I would
Sorry for the rambling post jim but your questions do make me think
Re the weekend. Myself S16 and D14 went shopping this morning to finish off shopping for school return. We had breakfast panins and a good laugh This pm EXW was here and I watched BSB qualifying and made dinner. Watching Cowboys and aliens whe sipping wine eating sweet tomatoes with D11 and D14 stretched out on sofas Two boys in the other room watching football. Tomorrow D11 and I are heading to the butterfly farm and then home for housework
