Well I just changed the locks on my house and changed the garage door codes. It feels so wrong but I needed to draw respectable boundaries. H move out but left a lot of things still here. Did not leave his keys and garage opener. I think he was thinking he would come and get the rest of his stuff and then give me the keys. Very emotional experience.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
Yes, fake it until you make it and keep working on you. If your H just moved in with OW, then things are going to get a bit more real. Having an distance A versus living together are two very different things. My guess is that the fantasy has a better chance to start wearing off now. Maybe he will see the grass in not greener with OW.
In the meantime, work on you and make yourself in to the Becky 2.0 that only a fool would leave. For all intensive purposes, I just kicked my H out and exposed to him that I knew who the OW is. He had been lying and living in his fantasy for at least 4 months. I think he has likely been staying with her and A is no longer secret. They also do not know if I will tell employer. My hope is that this puts pressure on them both and starts making A seem not so much the fantasy dreamland it was. So, now I am really focusing on me. Maybe it implodes and he sees the light, maybe not. Either way I win by becoming BT 2.0.
You made some very positive steps BT, time to update your signature at the bottom of your posts...
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
Becky, Your h may have been planning to make a number of trips back to the home to get his "stuff". He may not be planning to return the keys or opener. After all, it's the only mechanisms that he has to get into his home (or so he thinks).
BTW, please start a new thread. You now have 102 postings/replies.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
BTW, please start a new thread. You now have 102 postings/replies.
How do I do that? It must be easy but I can't figure it out.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
Go to the top of the Newcomers Forum and you will see two buttons on the left side of the screen. One says New Topic and the other one says Forum Options. Click on the New Topic button, create a new subject line and start posting. It is the same way that you started the current thread when you came to the Forum.
