"He has been kinder but I think it's simply because I have not been so controlling and clingy"

Hi 4 - the above is interesting and I think it shows that what you have been doing recently has had a positive effect. You removed some pressure and he has responded to you a little more kindly..

I'm so glad you are sticking with the book & CD. Hopefully if you carry on this path, it will lead to more positive changes in your life - whatever your H may be doing.

As you say, whilst you love him (as so many of us do our WAS) - you don't love him to the extent that you will live in a R where he doesn't behave lovingly or you are disrespected. That is good self-esteem talking.

Keep it up my friend xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus