Bright, You are trying to figure out what is going on you h's head and you can't because he doesn't know what he wants either. Redecorating the condo is something that he may think will make him feel better. Why? Because it will change things up for him, but this won't help w/his depression either. They want things to change and they will do everything humanly possible to make those changes happen, but at the end of the day, nothing will work.
Now, about his friends not accommodating him during the Labor Day Weekend...that's on them. It's their home and if they don't want to extend an invite to him, that's their business. Maybe something has happened that they aren't in agreement with. Maybe they don't like the behavior your h is exhibiting right now...but again, that's between them and it's not your problem to worry about. They will work it out when the time is right. You shouldn't feel guilty about using the condo that weekend.
BTW, I also agree w/ForeverYoung...don't change a thing and do not contact him regarding the condo. Leave it be. If he gets in a pinch, he'll contact you about it.
Keep your focus on you and your family. Focus on the things that you do have control over and let the rest of the stuff go.
