You hit the nail on the head. Before this I would have never thought I had control issue. This is exactly one of my biggest problems. I try in vain to control things beyond my control. I have always been mr. Fix it. I can't fix my r with my w and it is maddening.
M:39 W:40 S:10 S:7 D:12 BD:3/5/15 Separate BR:3/5/15 W moved out with kids 1/3/16
