TIME HAS COME PART 2

[DNTWNT]

Well really no update, going to visit a lawyer today. Hopefully all goes well. As far as stbx w just silence no contact. For a few days. She txt me every once in a while but I ignore. If it's not an emergency I have no reason to reply. I'm doing well. Working a lot keeping busy

[DNTWNT]

Little update. So my d hasn't called me in 3 days to say goodnight. She finally calls me tonight, I ask how she was etc she says good then there was silence for a sec and she says its just me and mom here. And I hear stbx say shhhhhh in the back round and my d says love you dad goodnight and hangs up. Like really. I have went dark with the stbx and she doesn't like the fact I ignore her etc she txt me stating that. I feel as if she is trying to get to me or real me in for a fight, but come on keep our d out of this. It's very immature. I kept my cool and said love you and hung up. Part of me wants to txt or call out of rage, but I feel I need to be the bigger and better person through this. This kills me though I don't even know this girl anymore. Please give me your advice and thoughts of this as I am not very happy right now

[asitis]

Very rough. The best advice I can give you is to think right now only about your D. She is caught in the middle. Do whatever it takes to see that she suffers as little as possible. It doesn't matter what happens to your M, that is the priority. We DB the best we can, but when it comes to our kids, they trump DBing.

Give yourself some space to really try to calm your thoughts as best you can at this chaotic time & think what is best for your D. If that means breaking one of the supposed "rules" of DBing, so be it.

Good luck & sorry both you and your D are being put through this. Be strong for her.

[DNTWNT]

Yea it's rough. All in all I think I handled it well. The old me would have snapped and done something stupid. But I held it together for my daughter. I'm sure stbx noticed that. Cause she knows how I am. And the jealousy issue I've had. But I held it together so I am happy

[DNTWNT]

Well I have updates. Nothing good at all, everything has actually gotten worse. My d4 has told me new man is living at there house. For god sake it's been 1.5 months. Now when I pick her up she tells me stories of om and it seriously is killing me. And stbx is putting stuff into her head etc this is emotionally breaking me at this point. Idk how to deal with this I'm seriously lost and hurt to a maximum. I've tried to talk to her how this isn't good but of course I'm wrong. Please help guys

[PigPen]

Keep breathing DNTWNT. Is there anyone close to you that can come spend some time with you just so you have another person around?

So sorry you're having this thrown in your face, it's very disrespectful and hurtful of your W to do so.

My heart really goes out to you. Do everything you have to to stay strong for your D4.

Big hug,

PP

[WhyUs]

DNT,

I had a similar sitch happen last night. I was on phone with d7 and she I heard WW tell her get off the phone offis time for bed. We were only talking for 5 minutes. The custody order says we can speak for 30 minutes. I fold d7, fell mommy we cN talk for 30 min. D7 told her and then tild me mommy said no. WTF.

I wonder if you should get an emergency custody order. Sound lime D4 is not in a healthy environment right now.

[DNTWNT]

Thank you guys. It's definitely the hardest part of this divorce forsure. It drives me nuts that she is actually ok with this. She's not in a fog she has just completely lost her mind.

[duke]

Hey DNT

Hang in there. I feel your pain here and have had a few similar sitches lately. W uses the kids against me all the time. W and mil team up on the kids against me all the time. Then they say don't let dad talk about the r at all so I can never defend myself. It's brutal. A couple of weeks ago I had plans on the weekend with my D's,W stepped in and said she was taking them out of town for the weekend instead the night before. I got mad and she said if you don't like it you better make an appointment with the mediator. Yup, this is the same lovely lady that asked me to separate over a text! Anyone heard that one before?

Hang in there pal. It gets better.

[duke]

Another one... Right after she dropped the bomb I was cleaning the house and doing laundry. She came downstairs and said we had to move fast to get a legal separation done. I said I need time. She said "I know you're happy thinking you're playing house here but I want this done!"