Originally Posted By: Cali
I do feel in a way she was 'allowed' (Does not seem like a good word ... but can not think of anything else here) back into the M maybe to easily ... like she had her A and all the 'fun', did not work out and here I am #2 who did not 'go anywhere'


I would suggest you reframe your thought regarding this. You were always #1. OM was #2 and is the one who did not work out.

Cali, it's not hard to see you're fed up with some of the sitch right now. It's not fair, it hurts, and you deserve better. I get that. But here's the thing. Your wife is "in" the M. She's trying. In your words, she's doing the best she can.

And you say you're committed to the M also.

A lot of your recent posts leave me with a sense of score keeping. Yeah, you're "ahead", but is hanging on to this fact going to aid building the new M?

Patience my friend!

If you calmly continue to be Cali 2.0 I'm pretty sure she will continue to step up and surprise you.

What's going on with the physical intimacy?

Last edited by ForeverYoung; 08/22/15 05:11 AM.
M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl