Being dark isn't enough by itself. It's a useful tool that we have. It helps us shift the pursuit/distance dynamic, it gives us space to change and it gives the S a chance to feel the impact of their decisions. But being dark wont solve the issues in your M and within you. You still need to figure out the problems and solve them. I'm not that familiar with your sitch specifically right now, but ultimately, you need to keep DBing for you.
Even if you get divorced, it doesn't automatically take you off of the roller coaster.
