hold on!! - 12

[PeterV2]

Wow, U-turn. I'm just catching up on your sitch. You gave it your best shot and even after she receives the papers it may still not be over. But I understand you got to do what you've got to do to preserve not only your sanity but your dignity and self-respect.

I applaud you for all the effort and carefully consideration you put in to save your M. You can hold your head up high knowing you've done everything you could do, even with a team of expert coaches such as Starsky, Wonka, Sandi and all the other vets that have contributed to your sitch.

I know at the end of my first marriage I didn't try to save it and just went straight to D. But I guess that one was by mutual agreement. Too bad we had 3 kids, but I think they weathered that pretty well.

Your kids are very lucky to have a great dad like you that can hold it all together even when the rug's been pulled out from under his whole life. I know the pain and sorrow. But you've done yourself proud in your parenting.

As for telling her, sure, give her a heads up a couple days before if you want. But what does she expect anyway. She's been treating you like yesterday's garbage for months with no end in sight. There's only so much a man can take. Hold onto your resolve. This is tough love. If there's even any love left.

But you never know. Like MWD says, it's not over until it's over.
This could be a wake up call for her, or just the final nail in the coffin. Whatever happens I'm glad to know that you'll be ok regardless. You deserve to be loved. You will be happy again. You will be ok.