Thank you to all and goodbye to my W

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Really glad to get the update & that you are doing so well. There comes a moment when you really see that while you still have the tiniest bit of hope, your path ahead lies in building your life separate from hers. It still hurts at times, but you finally start really investing yourself emotionally in this new life path by letting go of the fantasy. Oddly, surprises sometimes happen then, but you are then in a position to be able to really evaluate what you need to happen rather than what you will do to grasp the fantasy. It takes a lot longer than we think after we believe we have turned that corner to actually turn that corner.

Your Ds will benefit from having their dad so much more a part of their life and so much more nurturing of them. That is a gift your W didn't intend, but she did give it to you and you ran with it about as hard as anyone I've seen. You can look your Ds in the eyes when they're older and want to ask about what really happened with you and mom, and they will know by looking into your eyes that you stood for your M & for them. And you will have so many special moments with them that they (& you) will cherish for the rest of their (and your) lives.

Check in from time to time to let us know how you are doing, and stay strong, be healthy, and be happy!