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I'm glad, but remember she will leave a ring behind that will take a while to dissolve. The best cleaner is to be patient. He will likely be dealing with a loss. Even if you don't feel a lot of sympathy for him for his loss, recognize that it will impact your R with him. Give him space & time, and don't expect him to be ready to start healing your M right away.

You handled it OK, and it is a restrained reaction to what you probably wanted to say. "Gee, I know exactly how having your R fall apart feels. From experience, that must really hurt. Assh*le."

I don't know what I would have said in your place.

Still, remember that listening and validating are on the list of things to do for a reason. We all want to respond to our Ss when they go on about something that is unfair or painful to us, but listening and validating is the fastest way to get to that point where he might listen to your pain.