10 Months Later... XW Wants To Talk About Us?

[Zues126]

He is an every other weekend, one night a week dad, not really involved in her actual raising, but he's there and she loves him, nonetheless.

Sorry to hijack and missing the main point here, but I had to speak my voice.

I am a "one night a week/every other weekend" dad. The reason for this is that I am the only income earner. My WAW was a SAHM for 10 years. That was her dream, so I worked my tail off to provide. Now she has evicted me from the old home, yet hasn't gone back to work in a year. To continue to ensure my children have food to eat I continue to work my tail off. There was simply no way for me to have my kids more than this immediately after BD. In fact, I didn't even have a place to HAVE my children for the first 4 months as I stayed in a basement with friends. Now I am working hard with my attorney to get to 6 days/14, and eventually 7. But it is hard, because each step requires me to seriously change my work schedule and handle more than ever before, on top of doing everything that my SAHM wife used to do.

I am doing it, but it is slow, courts are slow, L's are slow.

POINT IS- for the last 8 months this is the time I've had with my children, and I don't agree that I haven't been involved with their raising.

I am teaching my son to shave this weekend
I am the one that takes them to church
I am the one that is helping my son through his pain, doing some joint journaling exercises
I am the one trying to encourage them to read instead of watch TV by reading them books- real books. Currently on "Blubber" so we can discuss bullying in school.
Of course I could go on.

I see my children absolutely BLOOM when they are with me. I bring out things in them their mom doesn't.

I'm sure STBX thinks I'm the "fun dad" and that she's raising them, and that I'm just another friend she's letting them play with because she knows it's 'good for them'. That's fine. I know the truth.

She is equally important, and brings her own gifts, and yes, she has historically done most of the parenting and does quite a bit of the routine things.

I just couldn't sit back and indirectly be called an uninvolved dad.

Now- I know this wasn't your point, and you were definitely not aiming this at me, so I'm not tweaked or anything. Just speaking up for the dads doing everything they can. Thanks!