Finally – he does seem to prefer my picking up the girls at his apartment rather than him driving them out to my house. It all sort of feels like he is establishing his turf and also planting a flag of “I will be more engaged in our daughter’s lives!” I’ll take it. I hope it lasts.
That's about as good as it gets, Raliced. It's about time!
LOL, several months ago, Mr. W. finally told me that he's sick of doing all the driving. I think my answer was "Oh." I wasn't sure if that was a commentary or what, but apparently he was testing the waters to see what I'd say when he said, "How about I feed D18 dinner Sunday nights and then you drive out to pick her up after dinner? We may have to make some exceptions along the way, but will this work for you?" I was a little shocked. I'm thinking he was shocked at my answer too... maybe he was expecting me to say something sarcastic or something? I dunno. We're 10 years post-D and 12 post split. You'd think he'd be okay with initiating proposed changes at this point?
My D18 used to volunteer at the Humane Society in the cat part. She loved it! My sister is knee deep in feral rescue. That's a story for another day, though. Enjoy your time with the girls and kitties!
BTW, you're doing lots right.
Have a great weekend, Coach!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
