So I continue to see NG. He's actually not new anymore, so I will now call him BF. We have moved in together and things are going well. Our relationship is real. We get along well, kids are like long-lost brothers and sisters. What I love about my life now is that everything is real. Nothing is pretend. Nothing is "for appearances only". I can be me, he can be himself and the kids can argue and it's okay. It's great as a matter of fact. My kids are over the moon about BF. He actually does things with S that his dad has never done. Ice Fishing, snowmobiling, boating, etc. And D already calls BF her stepdad. She adores him. Sometimes I think she is closer to BF than she is to her own father.
And no one really cares, but X continues to become more and more off the rails. I didn't think it was possible, but it is. His behavior is more and more bizarre. But his antics don't really get to me anymore. I start to react at first, then back off and just try to let things roll off my back. And it works. And it drives him even crazier now because he can't get that reaction from me any longer. The sad thing is that now, even D is starting to realize her dad doesn't measure up. Oh, she still loves him, but she is starting to tell me she doesn't like going to dad's house and she doesn't like OW and wants to stay with me and BF. Of course I have to tell her she will have lots of fun with daddy and I will see her soon and she needs to spend time with daddy. All the while knowing her daddy won't be around much. It breaks my heart, but there is nothing I can do.
So I guess my advice to newbies is listen to the vets on this board. They know what they are talking about. It takes time, but you eventually get there. But you have to MAKE yourself get there. And it ain't easy, that's for sure.
Peace out, WH
Last edited by wishing, hoping; 08/21/1508:58 PM.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
