Duke just read up on your sitch a bit thought I would add some as Azz is on point with all .. just wanted to point a few things out .. things people can get stuck on.
Originally Posted By: duke
I'm going to the gym, cycling, v-ball, working harder, bought new clothes, reconnected with friends, had great conversations, started going to church again, have better conversations with kids on Skype... its been 3 weeks since they left for EU but BD was at the end of May.
Ok .. all ^^^ is good
Originally Posted By: duke
My goal is to be happy. How? -GAL right? My goal is to get my wife back. My goal is to get my family back. My goal is to never see a lawyers face. My goal is to be an exceptional dad and husband. (she fired you for now .. be a good dad/man) If we owned a house we wouldn't be here. If our finances were better we wouldn't be here. If I didn't get down at times about both of the above we wouldn't be here.
Ok .. lets look at the strike throughs ... I get you are attempting at setting goals ... but you have to be specific like Azz said ... furthermore, a goal "to get your wife back" is not a goal, you have no control over that, her, or the situation.
What you can do .. is set goals for yourself ... these may result in re-attracting your wife, such as I am setting a goal to lose 5lbs, this is something you can work towards and measure and involves no one else but YOU.
The "If" statements ... nope .. dont live there either. "If I were George Clooney maybe she would not have left me" ... well you aren't ... own it ... move on. Do what you can do NOW, shoulda-woulda-coulda's will not land you where you need to go, hindsight is 20/20 for a reason .. its back there, we can pick it apart but the energy used on that is wasted away ... energy better saved for doing the work NOW.
