got here late

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I'm going to the gym, cycling, v-ball, working harder, bought new clothes, reconnected with friends, had great conversations, started going to church again, have better conversations with kids on Skype... its been 3 weeks since they left for EU but BD was at the end of May.

This is all great GAL stuff! What about on a personal/emotional level? That's a tough one, I am trying to be calm and not let things she says/does get to me or things MIL says or does.


My goal is to be happy. OK. How are you measuring this? [b]Daily changes.
What steps are you taking to meet your goal?Trying to do things that make me happy.
My goal is to get my wife back.
My goal is to get my family back.
My goal is to never see a lawyers face. It seems like these three are kind of the same. This is the long term goal, then. As MWD writes, this is the hole. So what are your intermediate goals? What are the short term things yo can do so that you can meet this? [b]By changing and improving my outlook and GAL
My goal is to be an exceptional dad and husband. Great! What does that mean? How are you doing that? [b]I have to get there first, I know I was already a pretty exceptional husband and dad but there are things I can improve like my moods and temper.

If we owned a house we wouldn't be here. If our finances were better we wouldn't be here. If I didn't get down at times about both of the above we wouldn't be here.

Maybe. Or if it werent this, it could be something else. Focus on the things you can control - your goals and your actions!

I honestly think that if we had a house things would be very different, W agrees